Sunday, April 22, 2012

NYC and Other Great Cities

I'm going to New York City this week. I have brief conference there on Friday, but I'm going early and staying late. I'm taking Leah with me. It's her 5th/6th grade trip. All my kids get one business trip with me when they're that age. I took Adrienne to Boston, Sammie to San Diego, Nathan to Chicago, and now Leah to NYC. It's super-cute how excited she is! She mostly wants to go to American Girl, so we have lunch reservations, and to the zoo. More on our trip next week, hopefully with photos!

This makes me reflect on my favorite American cities to visit. They are probably, in order:
1. Boston
2. NYC
3. Washington
4. Chicago
5. San Francisco
6. Seattle
7. San Diego
8. Philadelphia

I don't think anywhere else makes the list of recommended cities. I'm on the fence about New Orleans. I guess I'm going again in August. We'll see how it's changed  since Katrina. It's worth a visit, probably, and I think I'm talking myself into putting it on the list. But it also has large downsides, such as terrible transportation and, of course, the sleaze.

There is no city I would really try to avoid, but nothing much excites me about Atlanta, Dallas, Los Angeles, Portland, Denver, Minneapolis or Detroit. They have their high points for sure, but perhaps not enough for a real recommendation. Nevertheless, the Henry Ford museum and village in Detroit gets a shout out for one of the very coolest historical presentations in America, probably ahead of Williamsburg and Nauvoo.

I just checked the list of largest metropolitan areas in the US. Of the top 10, I only haven't been to Houston and Miami. I feel no loss.

Of the next ten, I haven't been to Phoenix, Tampa or Baltimore. I sort of feel an urge for Baltimore, if only to visit the Orioles' stadium, which looks really cool. There must be other interesting things in Baltimore. And I guess I can't really claim to have seen St. Louis much; just drove through it once.I would like to see it too. 

Sunday, April 15, 2012

On Ghastly Gashes

Sammie put a ghastly gash in her leg just below her knee last Sunday evening, Easter Sunday. She has become a minor celebrity because she posted the gruesome photo on Facebook and it hasbasically gone viral, in a limited way. People like her friend's brother's friend think it cool enough to put on their phones and everyone in church today wanted to see it or wanted a copy. It is really, really grotesque. She slid into a sprinkler head while we were playing Pickle with a frisbee. I feel terrible because I had encouraged her to slide. The sprinkler head in question is plastic, and maybe 1/16 of an inch above the surface of the grass. But it acted like a deep razor and sliced her leg open badly for a very long distance. I'm not sure the distance, but several inches.

We took her to the emergency room and the doctor took one look at it and called the orthopedic surgeon at a different hospital and ordered her transferred. It was so beastly that the ambulance guys who came to get her were snapping photos of it, for future trauma training or something, or maybe just because it was so cool. The anasthesiologist, who looked about 55 to 60 years old, said he had never seen anything like it.

I did not get a good look at it until we were in the emergency room when they cut off her pants. I only caught a quick glimpse, but nearly fainted. I felt very lightheaded, had to move out into the hallway and sit down and put my head between my legs. They gave me some Sprite and I started to feel a bit better. Luckily, Charlie was with us, and could help out. I'm a mess with blood and injuries. I would be the world's worst soldier, always passed out by the sickening sights. I sometimes wonder what I would have done if drafted in a major war. Hopefully they would have figured it out and given me a desk job somewhere clerking for someone.

Anyway, Sammie thinks it's awesome, and so, apparently, does the rest of the world. I'm happy for them. It might be worse for me since it's my daughter and I feel responsible for telling her to slide. I'm not sure I'll ever look at the photo.

I'm just grateful that we live in an age where she can receive excellent care from skilled doctors and get pumped full of antibiotics to prevent infection. The surgical nurses said they were picking a lot of grass out of the wound and could put their hands halfway down her shin inside the skin because it had ripped the muscle away from the bone. Crazy.

I'm grateful for God's blessings in the face of such awful injuries. Sammie came home from the hospital Wednesday and spent the next three days fishing with us. We had a lot of fun and she is a wonderful girl!




Monday, April 2, 2012

Violence in Film

With the release of Hunger Games, violence in the media is a hot topic of discussion again. Let it first be known that I love the Hunger Games series; it is perhaps my second-favorite fantasy/sci fi series after LOTR. Many do not like the third book, arguing that it gets away from the essential story. I disagree. But let's leave that for another day. The question now is: What's a concerned parent to do with something like the violence in The Hunger Games film?

I have not yet seen the movie, but I've been reading a lot about it. I did recently watch another very violent movie: The Dark Knight. Sammie has been telling me for years to watch it; for a couple of years it was her favorite movie and basically the only movie she would watch. She generally doesn't like movies. I recently let Nathan watch it as well. I recall my students urging me to see it from the moment it appeared and hear it frequently named among LDS students as a favorite.

Well, I finally saw it. The movie has a lot to recommend it, including outstanding acting and pacing. It even, surprisingly, deals with great themes and interesting ideas, which I think are both essential for great movies and books. The choices faced by the District Attorney in Gotham capture nicely the sorts of dilemmas facing politicians in, say, Mexico where they get blamed for fostering violence when they go after powerful outlaw elements like the drug cartels.

Yet, at the end of the day, I'm going to trash our copy of the movie (given to us, probably; we don't generally pay for movies) and have talked to my kids about not watching it again. I have two fundamental objections: 1-It portrays the details of violence, and talk about violence, far too explicitly and unnecessarily; and 2-More disturbingly, it portrays an extraordinarily bleak picture of human nature.

I read a story in the D.News where they were interviewing a psychology professor at BYU who studies media and violence. He was arguing that context is king: If violence is portrayed in a disapproving fashion, as in Hunger Games, it is far less harmful than if it is portrayed in approving light. I think, upon reflection, that this is exactly what's wrong with Dark Knight. It's not just that it's violent; it's that the notion of good and evil disappears.

I very much admire complexity, but I detest relativism. Picking one's way through complex choices in a murky world is essential; striving to do one's best in this process is admirable. In Dark Knight, virtually no one even cares enough to even try to sort through the morality of it all. There are a couple of glimpses of people caring about morality and making moral choices. But they are generally few and far between. They are generally amoral individuals driven only by passion.

Consider for a moment another fairly violent film: Harry Potter VII (1 or 2, take your choice). Both Potter and Knight get rated a 7 on the violence scale by parental guidance website "Kids In Mind." But think about Voldemort's compatriots in comparison to the Joker's. Voldemort's people sometimes demonstrate reluctance or even defiance when asked to engage in some great evil. The Joker's henchmen, in contrast, think nothing of killing a friend in the middle of a conversation.

We live in a violent world; I don't mind seeing some on screen. But we also live in a world where people have strong moral views and where human nature has a lot of good in it. To remove that entirely from the picture is a real tragedy. We have too much of cynicism in the world; it is the reinforcement of cynicism and the absence of virtue that I worry about, more than violence, in these films.

To its credit, the website commonsensemedia has started to take this viewpoint into account. It now has ratings for positive messages and role models, not just level of violence. And it seems to take account of such things in its ratings. This is the right move, and it's a good place for parents and teens to go to begin to get advice and information about these sorts of things.